Caution – Book Reviews Ahead

I like to read – a lot. I re-read books I’ve had forever, new books, magazine articles, newsletters and most recently, three middle-grade novels. Middle-grade novels are around 30,000 words and usually written for kids in grades five through eight. But these three novels are so well written, and the subjects so current, that they appeal to a wide range of readers, even adults.

The first is The Hope of Elephants written by Amanda Rawson Hill, published in 2022 by Charlesbridge.

At first glance, the book may be daunting – unless you love poetry. It is written entirely in verse. I have to admit, I almost passed it up. Verse is just not my cup of tea. After test-reading the first two pages, I was sold. I’m so glad I read it. The verse flows. There is no guessing as to the author’s intent. The language is clear and often lyrical. The page format enhances the meaning of the words. In some cases, the way the words are displayed on the page provides a visual image of the meaning just as strong and clear as a photo. This is the story, told by Cass, an almost twelve-year old girl, about her family as they deal with a rare genetic mutation of a gene that helps the body fight cancer. Cass’s father has the mutation and has suffered through several bouts of various cancers. It is a story of courage and determination. Cass has a choice to make between taking a test to determine if she has the mutation, or simply living her life without knowing. It is a beautifully written book.

The second book is Repairing the World by Linda Epstein, published in 2022 by Aladdin.

This is a story about friendship, unthinkable loss and courage. Daisy, an eleven-year-old girl faces the loss of her best friend at a time in her life when she is facing big changes. The story of how the loss impacts the two families is masterfully told. The title of the book, Repairing the World, is perfectly chosen. The author does a wonderful job of disclosing what this phrase means. Author Linda Epstein’s story is full of heart, honesty and the magic of the world that is all around us. A wonderful, healing story.

The third book is Wonder by R. J. Palacio, published in 2012 by Knopf.

This book inspired the Choose Kind movement and has been published in fifty-five languages. Auggie Pullman is entering the fifth grade, after being home-schooled by his mother. He has severe facial abnormalities and had not been expected to live when he was born. When his parents realize he needs to be able to deal with the outside world, he is enrolled in the fifth grade at a private school. His presence at school forces unexpected changes in the way the students relate to each other. The book is amazing. It is not just told by Auggie. Sections of the book are told by the other characters as they reflect on their own actions. It is sad, funny and inspiring.

You may not choose to read any of these books, but if you do, I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

Peace

It Don’t Matter

Several years ago, there was a comedian whose tag line was “It don’t matter.” I don’t remember the jokes, or the name of the comedian, but five minutes into his performance, the audience joined in yelling, “It don’t matter!” The phrase stuck with me and my husband and we used it a lot.

It can mean many things, but we used it to dismiss outsized worries. Outsized worries begin with ‘What if.’ ‘What ifs’ are highly unlikely possibilities of a future disaster. We felt we had enough real worries, so we dismissed the dark possibilities with ‘It don’t matter.’

There are, of course, a lot of things that do matter. Some are personal, such as family matters, or career, some political, religious or ecological. There are worrisome problems that have to be solved in concert with others over time. Maybe you pick one (or two) of these mega-problems, and do what you can to help – write letters, donate money, go to meetings – whatever you can do to help – but don’t adopt it. It is not just your personal problem. You don’t have the power or influence to solve it on your own. Thinking you do is pure arrogance.

Then there are the hair-on-fire emails, texts, phone calls and mailers that we all receive, claiming that if you don’t personally respond (usually by giving money), the world will be destroyed. These come from political entities, religious groups and often those who have a product you simply must buy immediately (or else!)

Unless the email/text/call/mailer connects to the mega-problem (or problems) you have chosen to help solve, maybe ‘It don’t matter’ applies.

Peace

TRUST – BUT VERIFY?

So much of our daily life is based on our willingness to trust.

We trust that recently cleared roads are safe, even when it has been snowing.

We trust that the United States will provide a safe place for our families.

We trust that staying in the cross walk will keep us safe. (Obviously, trust can be misplaced!)

If you are a dog, you trust your human to care for you.

A few days ago, someone knocked on my door. I have a “No Soliciting” sign, but most of those who knock ignore the sign, claim they didn’t see it, or simply don’t understand what “soliciting” means. I’ve resigned myself to educating them when I open the door.

This time, it was different. The very young woman at my door started talking a mile a minute before the door was fully open. She was obviously nervous. I had to slow her down in order to understand her. I asked her a series of questions and finally found out that she was selling magazine subscriptions in order to win a contest. The prize was $2,000.00. I was not about to order any magazines and I told her that. Then I asked her what her goals were and how she planned to use the prize money to support her goals. She had a lot to say, and I listened. I didn’t think selling magazine subscriptions would help much. But, in the end, I gave her a contribution.

I don’t know if she was sincere and just uninformed, or if she was a budding con artist. Somehow, it didn’t matter. We ended the conversation with her telling me about her family. I wished her well and she went on her way.

I trusted her, putting aside my usual cynicism. Ronald Reagan is known for (among other things) the phrase “Trust but verify” in reference to his strategy for negotiating with the USSR. It dawned on me that trust, at least in personal relationships, is rarely a product of verification. Usually we trust based on a hunch, a feeling, or even experience, but rarely do we suspend trust, in least in personal relationships, until we have had time to verify.

This doesn’t mean I’d endorse trust without verification for important personal financial, political, or medical decisions, but there is something corrosive about approaching others for the first time with a pre-exsiting belief that THAT individual is not to be trusted. Sometimes its just better to risk it.

Peace

Note: I haven’t posted since September 2021. For the last two years I have been researching and revising a manuscript for a middle-grade novel. In March 2023 I completed the manuscript. Now comes the fun part – getting published.

A Whole Lot of Ain’t It Awful

I had a phone conversation with a friend. We hadn’t talked for a while. A lot had happened in our lives since then – not all of it particularly good. We ended up talking about the bad things that were happening in the world – things we had no control over and often things that did not immediately affect our lives.

Such conversations are, I suppose, necessary. Everyone needs to vent at least once in a while; but, under certain circumstances, talking about the “baddies” can give them more life and energy than they deserve. Those conversations I refer to as “A Whole Lot of Ain’t it Awful.”.

The next morning, I set out on one of those errands you wish you didn’t have to do, but know you have to. I turned on the car radio to a classic Rock and Roll station. It was their request hour. I hoped it would improve my sour mood.

The first song the D.J. played was ‘Mr. Blue Sky’ by Electric Light Orchestra, (1977). He proclaimed It was the happiest song ever written. He might be right. The next song was ‘The Power of Love’ by Huey Lewis and the News (1985).

I reached my destination with a smile on my face. I had changed the playlist in my mind. I started thinking of other songs that lifted my mood. Here’s my playlist.

Werewolves of London – Warren Zevon (2007) – This features a honky-tonk style piano with quirky lyrics.

Somebody to Love – Queen (1976) – Great voices and music- Freddy Mercury’s voice is wonderful. They sound like they had fun making the recording and that over-rides any sense of saddness

I Can See Clearly Now – Jimmy Cliff (1993)- a great song that reassures us that there is a bright future

What a Wonderful World – Louie Armstrong (1967) – Enough said!

The key, in such messy times, is to find the beauty, goodness and hope that still exists in the world. Sometimes we have to dig to find it, but it is always there.

Peace

The Light at the End of the Tunnel

As we move through the nightmare of the COVID-19 pandemic, you might think things are getting better. The light at the end of the tunnel is shining more brightly. It’s only a matter of time before we are through this. After all, we now have three vaccines. Some states have a lower rate of infection, hospitalizations and death rates.

The vaccines are great, even remarkable, but this morning one of them is on hold because some very limited, but life-threatening side effects have emerged. Doctors are not yet sure who should avoid this particular vaccine. It will take more time to sort it out. The other factor is that we do not yet have a sufficient supply of vaccine for all those who need it. In addition, more states have an increasing infection rate, hospitalization rate and death rate. It is clearly a case of good news/bad news. This grim picture does not even consider that the world-wide pandemic rages on outside our borders.

When you are almost at the end of a traumatic event, you don’t know it. All of the signposts are new, never experienced before. So, we either become numb to what is going on, or focus on what is immediately in front of us and what we are feeling at the moment.

A common analogy employed at such times is that of running a race. You might hear, ‘If you just hang on, you’re almost to the end,’ or, ‘Don’t give up, you’re almost at the finish line.’

The analogy does not hold. When you run a race or a marathon, you know where the endpoint is. It’s a lot easier to stay motivated when you know the distance to the endpoint.

With the pandemic, we really cannot see the endpoint. All we can do is deal with newly emerging problems as they arise, trust that there is an endpoint and make every effort to keep a positive outlook.

There are two people I know who have successfully maintained a positive outlook throughout this terrible time. They are both very creative, although in different ways. They haven’t fallen into the trap of spending most of their time reflecting on their own troubles, but rather have been able to focus outward.

One is local musician, composer and performer Danny Schneider. In 2019, Danny wrote and recorded nine new songs. They were songs inspired by what Danny saw on the streets of Sacramento. Like many urban areas, Sacramento has a growing and tragic problem with homelessness. As you can imagine, the problem has become even more pronounced during the pandemic. While working on the album, Danny discovered Joshua House Hospice, an organization raising funds to establish a hospice for the homeless in Sacramento. He decided to produce the LP as a fund raiser for Joshua House. He has a goal of selling 100 LPs at $100.00 each. All of the $10,000 generated by the sale goes directly to Joshua House. The pandemic interfered with Danny’s plans for an in person concert as a thank you for those who donated. In spite of the interference, to date 78 of the albums have sold.

You can purchase one of the remaining LPs as well as find out more about Joshua House Hospice and Danny Schneider at http://dannyschneider.com

The second amazingly positive person I know is Yeonhee Choi. Yeonhee has had an amazing life. Born in Seoul, South Korea, she attended graduate school in the United States and has lived in the U.S. for many years. She has worked for several major corporations in international marketing and planning.

Recently, she launched her own business as a Life Coach doing what she loves, inspiring others to fulfill their life goals. She is fearless and her enthusiasm is contagious. To find out more about Yeonhee, go to her website at Dream4ward.com

Peace

PLAYING WHACK-A-MOLE WITH COVID-19 VACCINATIONS

I still go to grocery stores. I wear my mask and maintain social distance. Usually I go early in the morning when the stores are less crowded and store shelves are being re-stocked. Recently, although I was more than six feet away, I heard two employees talking as they worked. One had received his first Covid-19 shot a week earlier and he was describing the process and the side effects he felt. He said he felt great within twenty-four hours. I couldn’t help congratulating him on getting the vaccine. He looked a little surprised, then pleased when he realized I was sincere.

Hopefully, you are one of those who have at least the first shot. For the rest of us, getting a vaccine appointment has been a lot like playing Whack-A-Mole.

In self-defense, I have decided not to play. I have registered with at least four places, including my health care provider. All have promised to alert me when and where I can get a vaccination. The problem for all of the vaccination clinics is the shortage of the doses and the lack of information on how many doses they will receive until the very last minute. There is nothing I can do to change these facts, but I can avoid getting caught up in any perceived unfairness in the process.

This is certainly not the first pandemic we have faced. Many of us know a little about the 1918 flu pandemic, but even earlier than that, from 1775-1782, we faced a smallpox pandemic in the Western hemisphere. Smallpox infected Europe early on. Columbus carried the disease to the new world and the disease decimated native populations.

According to an article on George Washington and smallpox in Wikipedia, the very first smallpox vaccinations took place in Europe when Lady Mary Wortley Montagu had her children vaccinated against smallpox in 1670.

When it struck the Western hemisphere in 1775 there were two ways to deal with the disease – quarantine or inoculation. The inoculations were not as refined as our versions today and many were justifiably fearful of the inoculations. (Sound familiar?)

For history nerds, Phyllis Levin, in her biography of Abigail Adams, relates the story of how Abigail and John inoculated their family against the disease. It was not for the faint of heart!

Recently, NPR interviewed Ken Burns. When asked about four challenges the U.S. has faced over the years, he mentioned Covid-19. Commenting of the possibility of successfully vaccinating a sufficient number of people in the U.S. to establish “herd immunity”, he pointed out that in 1947, New York vaccinating six million people against smallpox in one month. His point – it can be done.

If you are unsure about getting the Covid-19 vaccination, I hope you will carefully consider what the alternative could be. Covid -19 is a deadly disease that has killed thousands of people.

Peace

Disappointment

It has been said, wisely, that if you sell your house, you should not return to see what the new owners have done to your house. There are several good reasons for this:

  1. The house (your former home!) will look very different to you. The happy fog of memory makes you think the house was larger and more elegant that it really was – your return visit will confirm it isn’t
  2. The new owners may have changed the house by painting or construction. Undoubtedly, their choice of day-glow orange instead of the sedate cream you prefer will cause shock and dismay.
  3. You will either gloat over the great deal you made when you sold the house, or you will regret what you see because you mistakenly believe your fond memories of life in the house have vanished with the sale. Both are uncomfortable positions.

I’m beginning to think that revisiting favorite fictional characters can have much the same effect. We all have television shows featuring characters so intriguing that we are somewhat saddened when their long-running shows go off the air – for example, The Big Bang Theory. From this, sequels are born.

Jane Austin’s novels and characters are often subjects of sequels. Recently I re-read Sense and Sensibility. I followed that by re-reading Eliza’s Daughter by Joan Aiken, a sequel to Sense and Sensibility. It is well-researched by the author who passed away some time ago. My disappointment comes when Ms. Aiken tells us what happens to several of the main characters of Sense and Sensibility; the three sisters Elinor, Marianne, Margaret and Edward and Colonel Brandon.

It turns out, according to the sequel, that Elinor, who has married Edward, lives in abject poverty with her skin-flint husband. They have a very spoiled daughter. They lost a son when he was only five years old. I had high-hopes for Elinor. She was the sensible sister, She turned into a spineless, quietly bitter woman, very submissive to her husband.

Her sister, Marianne, married Colonel Brandon. They are alluded to in the sequel. They are reputedly very well off. Marianne is quite selfish. She lives in relative comfort while her sister and family live on the estate in poverty.

Margaret, the youngest of the sisters, became a teacher at a school for young ladies. This is not considered a very high-status profession. She, too, seems to be afraid of crossing her penny-pinching brother-in-law Edward.

Such a disappointment! You always hope the characters that had potential develop into strong, confident characters in their sequels. But that is often not the case. It probably makes for a better story when they don’t.

I have high-hopes for another, real-life sequel- the U.S. after the Trump presidency. As long as the major character leaves the scene and is not featured in the sequel, we should be fine.

Peace

The Covid 19 Diaries

Fear is a powerful emotion. According to folk lore, fear can change your hair from black to pure white in a flash and it can freeze you, as in ‘frozen with fear’. Here’s the thing; Fear is a very useful emotion. It keeps us on the lookout for danger in our environment and it (sometimes) stops us from making rash choices that could harm us. But, unchecked, Fear can do severe damage to us, both psychologically and physically.

The world has had more than its share of Fear. Every news broadcast features up to the minute “breaking news” about Covid 19, political difficulties and natural disasters. Fear has a megaphone. The more we listen to it, potentially the more fearful we become.

When that happens, we really can become ‘frozen with fear.” It becomes more difficult to sort out real, immediate events requiring immediate action from those events that might or might not occur in the future. It keeps us from taking actions that could alleviate fear.

Constant fear takes a toll on empathy. We become so overwhelmed that we lose sight of the humanity of those around us. In a real sense, we become less human.

Dispensing with all fear would be a mistake. It is a powerful motivator. General Omar Bradley, U.S. Army WW II wrote, “Bravery is the capacity to perform properly even when scared half to death.”

We don’t need complete absence of fear, we just need to recognize and direct it.

My favorite quote about bravery and fear comes from Vishnu Verm, a writer, in a September 30, 2014 post, “The Best 26 Quotes About Being Brave.”

“Be Brave. Even if you’re not. Pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.

Peace

Thanksgiving

The typical way of celebrating Thanksgiving is not in the cards for this year due to the Covid 19 virus, but we can all do our own version, celebrate in a new way. Maybe in spite of, or maybe because of the virus and all the other troubles we have seen in 2020, counting our blessings and giving thanks seems more urgent. A neighbor of mine celebrated Halloween by decorating the front yard with ghosts, jack-0-lanters and a gravestone inscribed “RIP 2020.”

So, here it goes, my list of things and people I am thankful for:

My family – small in number and widely scattered, we still stay in touch

My Guy- I’m so glad we found each other!

My critique group – writing is a solitary activity and being able to share that process is necessary in order to keep going

Every grocery clerk, shelf-stocker, farm worker, truck driver and restaurant worker. They are all truly amazing.

Gardeners, plumbers, carpenters, retail workers

Every public health worker, doctors, nurses, janitors, nurse’s aids, office receptionists

Teachers, school office workers, custodians, bus drivers

Small business owners and clerks of all types.

People who voted and helped us realize that we still live in a democracy.

Let’s hope that 2021 will see us move forward. We have a tremendous amount of re-building to do, but we will succeed.

Peace

Fields of Fear

This nation has been through a lot of traumatic events in its relatively short history. To name a few: colonialism, slavery, The Revolutionary War, The Civil War, WW I, WW II, Vietnam, The Gulph War, 911, Afghanistan and numerous financial ups and downs.

There are those who take advantage of the truly reasonable fear that accompanies traumatic events. In an effort to increase and sustain their power and popularity, they often resort to exaggeration and outright lies. Their actions threaten the very foundation of our country.

Here are some examples of those who qualify as members of the American Rogues’ Gallery –

  1. Fritz Julius Kuhn (1986-1951) – A naturalized U. S. Citizen in 1934, he previously served in the German Army in WW I. His organization, Friends of the New Germany, attracted thousands of German Americans in the time leading up to WW II. He mirrored Nazi party propaganda (antisemitic and pro-German) and he styled his “meetings” along the lines of the large gatherings in Nazi Germany. Sent to prison in 1939 for embezzlement, he was later charged with more serious crimes. In 1943, his U.S. citizenship was revoked and he was deported from Sing-Sing Prison to Germany in 1945.
  2. Walter Winchell (1897-1972) – A New York Gossip columnist who evolved into a political power-house. He eventually became a firm supporter and friend of the notorious Senator Joe McCarthy. He used his very popular radio show, newspaper column and television show to support McCarthy’s witch-hunt, in the process destroying the reputations and livelihoods of many innocent Americans.
  3. Senator Joe McCarthy (1908-1957) – In the middle of the cold war, Senator McCarthy rose to prominence after a speech in 1950 when he declared two-hundred-five communists had infiltrated the State Department. This was a time of great and understandable fear in the U.S. of the rise of communism and in particular of the Soviet Union, in the aftermath of WW II. Senator McCarthy, unable to prove his assertions, resorted to increasingly outrageous accusations. In 1954, he was condemned by his fellow senators and his reign of terror ended. He died in 1957.

In some cases, but not all, these individuals began with good intentions. Senator McCarthy was seen by some as a patriot. But as time went by, it became apparent that their main concern was securing their own positions of power, both political and financial. Motivations of patriotism and public service fell by the wayside and personal gain took over.

We survived these challenges, but if we respond to today’s challenges by allowing our fears to stampede us into making rash, ill-informed decisions, there will be a rough road ahead.

Peace